Physical Attraction To The Opposite Sex
#1
Posted 02 August 2005 - 01:27 AM
#2
Posted 02 August 2005 - 11:53 AM
I'm confused about your description of attraction as being "intrinsic." I would argue that attraction necessarily involves two people, and therefore cannot exist as an intrinsic attribute of an individual.
[Edit: Removed unnecessary quotation]
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Posted 02 August 2005 - 01:00 PM
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Posted 02 August 2005 - 01:06 PM
#5
Posted 02 August 2005 - 01:27 PM
Quite a lot of philosophical meandering has gone into trying to define what "beauty" is. I think it's like "blue": you know it when you see it, and an ostensive definition seems to suffice.
I can't think of a single thing that I consider to be a factor of "good looks" that isn't a matter of how you take care of and present yourself, btw. I mean, who cares if a guy has thinning hair or a square jaw or what? Now, a comb-over, that's a different story.
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#6
Posted 02 August 2005 - 07:57 PM
Sure, you can be attracted to someone's physical attributes, but how long does that alone last? Is it the foundation of a loving, inspirational, and challenging relationship? Is it real love, or just a momentary reaction?
Atlas does portray sexuality in its proper context, but Eddie Willers , d'Anconia, Rearden, and Galt don't fall in love with Dagny because she's just beautiful. Her beauty is only a part of who she is, more a consequence of her confidence, pride, ability, and intellect than a pursuit of aesthetic excellence.
(Heterosexuality is "intrinsic"? Danger, Will Robinson. This is where you tread into some deep, psychologically complex territory. Watch your step ... lots of logical potholes in there.)
Physical attraction just sparks the sexual drive. It is important, but only a component of sexuality. The best physical attraction is that where "classic beauty" or traditional standards are bypassed in favor of a person whose poise, character, wit, and charm are manifest in a wry smile, a gleam of the eye, and an interesting choice of words. (I've often been made fun of - largely by female friends - because my list of 'Hollywood hotties' is way outside the A-list covergirls ...)
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#7
Posted 02 August 2005 - 08:08 PM
Felipe, on Aug 2 2005, 01:06 PM, said:
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No. I was thinking there was a differentiation between the observation of beauty and the projection of values. But those are two identical concepts, which now allows me to see my error. Thanks.
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Posted 02 August 2005 - 08:14 PM
synthlord, on Aug 2 2005, 08:57 PM, said:
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Oh, the looks I get when I say I don't think Paris Hilton is hot.
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#9
Posted 02 August 2005 - 08:35 PM
Give me Mary McDonnel, Natascha McElhone (rowr), Anne Archer, Emily Watson, Claire Forlani, Julia Ormond, Janel Moloney, Allison Janney ... the list goes on.
Classy, interesting women all, and not just the characters they've played.
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#10
Posted 03 August 2005 - 11:28 AM
synthlord, on Aug 2 2005, 09:35 PM, said:
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A perfect example of how we can't easily separate our value estimates of people from our appraisal of their physical attractiveness: my girlfriend is the splitting image of Paris Hilton (don't tell her I said that!), but while I find my girlfriend stunning, I have the same reaction to Hilton as you do.
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#11
Posted 03 August 2005 - 07:08 PM
It's a momentary thing ... physical beauty captures my attention, yes, but it takes a lot to keep that attention. That's when a woman becomes really attractive to me, and not just pretty. Big difference.
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#12
Posted 04 August 2005 - 09:58 AM
If you think that physical appearance has nothing to do with one's philosophic premises, then you are sadly mistaken. Obesity and slovenliness are far greater evils than many that people get all fired up about.
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#13
Posted 04 August 2005 - 11:24 AM
TomL, on Aug 4 2005, 10:58 AM, said:
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Not quite. If you find physical beauty where you know there to be spiritual ugliness, then yes, that's a problem. But you can quite obviously find physical beauty where the character of the person is unknown. In that case, you do project a certain kind of consciousness onto that person, but that's no error so long as you keep in mind the fact that you have insufficient evidence to real a final conclusion.
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Posted 04 August 2005 - 01:29 PM
#15
Posted 04 August 2005 - 06:13 PM
TomL, on Aug 4 2005, 09:58 AM, said:
The difference is that obesity is something you can control, so it gives clues to one's character. Many things are, however, out of the power of the person's control and therefore give nothing away about his or her character.
And even with obesity, I am yet to meet anyone who finds that attractive, regardless of what their philosophy is, so I don't see how that proves your point.
#16
Posted 04 August 2005 - 10:20 PM
DPW, on Aug 4 2005, 11:24 AM, said:
I can't disagree more. This is explicitly a manifestation of mind/body dichotomy, giving primacy to the body. In a properly integrated subconscious, there should be no estimate of "physical beauty" prior to the discovery of the person's character.
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#17
Posted 05 August 2005 - 12:02 AM
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I don't see any mention of "must be based on character" in there.
I think what you are offering us is a false alternative: either we base all our beauty-judgements of humans on character, or we engage in a mind-body dichotomy. Clearly it is neither.
On your account those of us who find beauty in things that are not related to character, such as sunsets on the beach, colorful fish and reef in the clear waters of the Bahamas, a dense, lightly misted forest in the fall with a fresh morning breeze flowing through a canopy of trees formed over a walking trail, the chirping of birds at sunrise, a clear open nightsky full of stars, symmetric, harmonious faces, the long sexy legs of a tall woman, etc., are being mindless.
Well, don't mind me, but I'm going to go ahead and continue enjoying my mind-body dichotomy.
Please note, before anyone jumps off into the deep end, that nowhere have I implied that all forms of beauty are a proper basis for sexual attraction.
#18
Posted 05 August 2005 - 12:05 AM
TomL, on Aug 4 2005, 10:20 PM, said:
Your seriously trying to say you've never seen a woman and thought she was attractive before meeting her? If this is true, I think that is very unhealthy suppression.
#19
Posted 05 August 2005 - 01:22 AM
From my (limited) knowledge of the above fields, I would say that there are some things that are likely to be genetic predispositions (as a trivial example, preferring 'nice skin' would make sense from an evolutionary perspective since bad skin is often a sign of disease. Women preferring strong, tall men makes sense because these are the ones most likely to protect her offspring, and so on). Other things will be influenced by general cultural factors - being fat is considered attractive in some poorer countries because it is a sign of wealth, and pale skin was considered attractive in the West a few hundred years ago for similar reasons (now being tanned has taken over). Then there will then be personal factors, including (eg) the people around you during stages of your development - was there a blonde haired girl who took care of you when you were weak and vulnerable as a child, and so on. Maybe some people will be attracted to people who remind them of their first girlfriend. I've got a theory that people who were relatively unpopular at school are far less likely to be attracted to 'cheerleader' looks, but I dont have a large enough sample size to justify it. Finally, there will probably be a lot of 'random' variation caused by the sheer number of different variables involved.
But in any case, theres probably a countless number of different factors involved that would rule out the possibility of any one unified 'theory' of attraction. It's science though, not philosophy.
Having said all this, I do agree with TomL's position in this thread, although perhaps not to quite as strong an extent. For me anyway, a large part of physical attraction is based on personality - I will almost always end up sexually attracted to females I respect, no matter what my first impressions of them were. Similarly, I will generally be turned off a girl I initially found attractive, if I later discover she is a repulsive person. I think the distinction between attractiveness and sexuality is a far narrower one than a lot of people suppose, although I do agree with DPW's "but you can quite obviously find physical beauty where the character of the person is unknown". Tom, do you really think you'd be unable to say "Jennifer Aniston is more attractive than Judge Judy" if you knew nothing about the personalities involved?
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#20
Posted 05 August 2005 - 01:43 AM
The proper basis for sexual attraction is one thing, and the proper criteria for judging something as beautiful is another.

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